The groundbreaking book that started it all!
With more than 2,000 digital copies sold around the world (and even more on e-readers), Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love offers a much-needed, long-awaited alternative to the antiquated marital relationship theory. By de-sexualizing and de-romanticizing love, this book expands and explodes traditional definitions and assumptions about love and helps readers understand what love means to THEM — and how to experience more of it in their lives.
Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love is easy to read, features larger fonts, concise descriptions, and real-life examples of each Modern Love Method using illustrations. Made to be a functional and accessible guide, it is the perfect tool to support you during your learning and unlearning journey.
The paperback features:
126 total pages
Expanded introductions
Thoughtful epilogue
18 Modern Love Languages listed in alphabetical order
14-point easy-to-read font
Blank notes pages at the end
8.5x5.5 inch size
Grayscale illustrations
Compassionate and expansive language
15% discount code for sessions with author Anne Hodder-Shipp
The ebook features:
92 total pages
18 Modern Love Languages listed in alphabetical order
Large, easy-to-read fonts
Pretty, high-contrast colors
Aesthetically pleasing color palette and design layout
Portable, read-anywhere format
Colorful illustrations
Compassionate and expansive language
We recommend you use this along with The Speaking from the Heart Workbook for a comprehensive and supported experience!
What people are saying about
Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love:
“Speaking from The Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love is a brilliant foundational guide for people of all ages and identities who are ready to level up their relationship skills. Practical, relevant, and user-friendly, SFTH offers dozens of specific examples for how to match your feelings of love with actionable, identifiable behaviors that build connection and nourish humanity in the 21st century. No longer left wondering, ‘How do I show them I care?’, SFTH guides you to understand how and why love matters in your world. For friends and lovers, coworkers and neighbors, Speaking from the Heart shows you how to build community and connections that thrive, one relationship at a time.”
— Cyndi Darnell (she/her)
Sex and Relationship Therapist
“Anne Hodder-Shipp’s Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love is the [alternative] to The 5 Love Languages® society has needed for decades. It is a refreshing and inclusive look at the ways we connect in relationships and will help clinicians, coaches, sex educators, and anyone attempting to engage in relationships with other humans as we navigate the messiness of life. I look forward to utilizing this ebook with my clients as a means of aiding their relational growth and highly recommend it to everyone!”
— Kristine Ives, LMFT, CET-2 (she/her)
Certified Brainspotting Therapist and Co-Founder of BraveHeart Retreats
“This book is a fantastically accessible read, that takes the idea of love languages and transforms them into something that everyone can have access to. As a Disability Awareness Consultant working in sexuality and disability, I had heard of The 5 Love Languages®, but I never honestly understood them or thought that they could be applicable to me in any way. Speaking from the Heart helped me to see what my love languages are, and some of the ways that I have used them incorrectly. This book will act as a comprehensive guide for someone understanding love languages for the very first time, but will also be a welcome and necessary refresher for those who felt that [The 5 Love Languages®] didn't fully encompass their experiences. My favorite part of this ebook is the knowledge Anne brings to the complexity and nuance found in all types of relationships, and I think that is what sets this updated version far apart from the original.”
— Andrew Gurza (they/he)
Disability Awareness Consultant, Host of "Disability After Dark" Podcast
“Love is inclusive. Anne’s book, Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love, highlights this inclusivity in their guide to relational love communication. This book is needed, and I will be recommending it to everyone I work with. Every page overflows with strategies to understand and communicate intentional love as well as disrupt harmful messages often found in cis-normative and heteronormative media and literature. We are all uniquely layered with way more than five ways to express love — this is the guide you need to inquire within yourself and others about ways of expressing and experiencing love.”
— Dr. Grace Abruzzo, PT, DPT, CAPP-OB/Pelvic, PYT-C, CD(DONA) (she/they)
Certified Pelvic Health and Obstetric Health Physical Therapist
“With Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love, Anne Hodder-Shipp has taken the love language ‘software’ and conceived a contemporary and more inclusive paradigm with which to navigate and nourish relationships. With compassion, clarity, and wit, Anne has created an expansive lexicon of love for the 21st century.”
— Elle Chase, CSE, ABS, (she/her)
Sex & Relationship Coach, Certified Sex Educator
“Speaking from the Heart: 18 Languages for Modern Love is so emblematic of Anne’s approach to teaching about sexuality and relationships. Above all else, SFTH is inclusive of all expressions of love and relationship styles, which is such an important reimagining of the love language idea. In addition to being an accessible resource, it is a fun and engaging read with practical examples that are brought to life through illustration. The way that Anne approaches the idea of love languages is expansive and full of empathy, which imbues it with a permission-giving quality. SFTH presents a new methodology that is sure to expand the awareness and relevance of the love language theory.”
— Sarah Tomchesson (she/her)
Sex Educator, Co-founder of S3X Plus, and Director of Marketing at Magic Wand