FINALLY!
A modern alternative to that popular “love language” idea.
Unlike that outdated evangelical book, Speaking from the Heart shows us that love happens in ALL relationships — not just romantic ones.
And there's way more than five ways to feel it.
The book and matching workbook offer 18 ways that people can express and receive love. They're called The 18 Modern Love Languages, and they have helped thousands of people transform their relationship to love.
The 18 Modern Love Languages include:
+ 14 more!
THE BOOK
A much-needed expansion of the "love language" concept that centers platonic love, dismantles heteronormativity, and challenges traditional ideas about relationships.
Friendly to everyone, but especially LGBTQIA+, ace and aro, non-monogamous, neurodivergent, and non-traditional readers.
Available as an ebook or in paperback (black-and-gray or full color)!
THE WORKBOOK
A much-needed expansion of the "love language" concept that centers platonic love, dismantles heteronormativity, and challenges traditional ideas about relationships.
Friendly to everyone, but especially LGBTQIA+, ace and aro, non-monogamous, neurodivergent, and non-traditional readers.
Available as an ebook or in paperback (black-and-gray or full color)!
THE COURSE
Explore what love means to you, on your terms and at your pace. This self-paced course gives you space to learn about what you need to feel more love in your life, while also helping you to name and let go of any old narratives that might not serve you anymore.
7 modules with captioned videos, fillable worksheets, and guided exercises from the creator of The 18 Modern Love Languages.
It helps that the creator is queer and qualified.
Anne Hodder-Shipp, CSE (she/they) is an award-winning sex and relationships educator who has worked in the sexuality field since 2007. She is also the program director of Everyone Deserves Sex Ed and Everyone Deserves Sex Therapy, two educational organizations that train therapists, educators, counselors, and other helping professionals.
Anne's candid commentary and culturally informed perspective about relationships, identity, and sexuality have appeared in major media outlets, including Prevention; O, The Oprah Magazine; Men's Health; Teen Vogue; Vice; Cosmopolitan; and more.
Understanding how we do (and don't) experience love can be key for having healthy relationships.
The 18 Modern Love Languages give you a new way to think about love — and all the unique ways you feel it.
Have questions? My frequently asked questions (FAQs) page might answer them!
More from Anne and The 18 Modern Love Languages:
LIVE WORKSHOP
THE PROFESSIONAL INTENSIVE
If you are a therapist, coach, or helping professional who uses the love language concept in your work, this one is for you!
This live interactive workshop takes a transformative deep dive into The 18 Modern Love Languages and how to use them with clients and students.
FREE QUIZ
WHAT’S YOUR MODERN LOVE LANGUAGE?
Take a quiz to see what love feels like to you and which Modern Love Languages you resonate with the most!
Use this as a starting point or sneak peek, not a "diagnosis" or personality test. It's meant to be fun!
PRIVATE COACHING
UNLEARN UNHELPFUL RELATIONSHIP PATTERNS
Relationships aren't intuitive and they don't come with easy instruction manuals.
Anne's coaching style prioritizes authenticity and emotional awareness over “the rules” so you can build and maintain relationships on YOUR terms.